After Lucas was born, I was plagued by anxiety. New baby, new house, new job role, challenges with Trevor. No shortage of things that caused worry, or fear.
I described it as “noise.” Lack of sleep significantly contributed to the noise. When I did get a chance to sleep, it was hard to drift away from all of the noise. Even clutter in my house/car/purse/email in box was noise since I could not focus on what to tackle first. I could not quiet my mind down enough to be productive.
Luckily, babies grow and progress beyond the really needy stage, and they eventually figure out how to sleep. Ish. The noise is not as loud, but many of my fears are still present. Here are some…
- I fear missing milestones, and sweet moments with my kids because I work.
- I fear receiving a cancer diagnosis. Again.
- I fear outliving one/both of my kids.
- In my business, I fear that people will not take me seriously, or even take the time to hear about what I am doing because they think it is another “one of those businesses”. This is paralyzing.
- I fear Spiders. I am an equal opportunity arachnophobe,and loathe all kinds. I appreciate individuals that feel the need to scoop them up and save them by setting them free outside, but in my home…”he gone.” Spiders are a main reason why I do not camp. Well, dirt also.
- I fear social situations that stretch my comfort zone. Like…those ladies at the park.
- I fear the effects of chemicals in our air/homes, in products we put on our bodies, and in our food. This fuels fear #2.
- I fear change. My cheese has been moved both at home and at work several times in the last year. Grumble.
- I fear that something I get rid of will be something that I NEEEEEED in the future. Minor hoarding issue. Not the intervention kind of hoarding (yet), but I could certainly account for a forest of trees with all of the mail, and paper, and WHY.DO.I.STILL.HAVE.THAT piles that are around. My mother comes to hang with my kids on Thursdays, and she is constantly sorting/relocating my piles. It is a problem.
- I fear my competency as a mom. There are several things that contribute to this, but most of them are unfounded. I know I need to be realistic and stop comparing. I have come to know that being a mom is both the most rewarding, and the most challenging thing I have ever done in my life.
It was time to write out a few of my fears to get them out of the dark. It is the beginning of taking steps to reclaim a bit of quiet.